In Marriage Do Not Trivialize the Vital or Vitalize the Trivial

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She used the little broom and shovel from the fireplace set and her mop bucket to clean out the fireplace for her husband.  She carefully cleaned all the ash, putting both coals and ash in the mop bucket.  As she picked up the bucket by the handle to take the coals outside to the burner barrel, the bottom fell out.  Her mop bucket was plastic, and the hot coals melted the bottom.  The coals dropped on the new carpet, leaving a few burn marks.

When her husband got home that evening, she told him what she had done.  He became as hot as the coals.  He said things like, “how could you be so stupid.” Suddenly, he realized what a jerk he had been to get so upset and condescending toward his wife.  His anger would be something she would remember for a long time.  

Suddenly, as if God had gotten his attention, he heard, “Do not lose your home over a few burn spots in a carpet.” He had trivialized the good that his wife was doing for him.  He vitalized and overreacted to a trivial mistake that could have happened to anyone.  There are many trivial things in life.  Those things will not matter for very long.  The vital things, like a marriage, should last a lifetime.  

Do not lose the vital because you overreacted to the trivial

Never React to a Mistake.  Instead, Respond and Stay Positive

Published by People Pastor Dr. Bill Fix

Bill Fix loves serving the Lord and helping people. For many years he pastored in central Florida and Southern Michigan. He and his family traveled extensively performing illusion, puppets, ventriloquism, chalk art, and comedy as a creative way to present the Gospel. When Bill and his family performed, people listened. Bill is a writer and has written several nonfiction Christian books. He has also written a few books for young children. He writes a monthly blog and a newsletter every two weeks. Pastor Bill has been married to his beautiful wife Dottie. for fifty-one years. Their two adult daughters married Godly men and gave them four amazing grandchildren. In 2022 they became great-grandparents. Pastor Bill Fix, known as The People Pastor. has many hobbies like writing, fishing, and spending time with family and friends. He is a popular and frequent officiant at weddings, dedications, and funerals. You can personally email him at or visit his Web page at www.people

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