In Marriage Do Not Trivialize the Vital or Vitalize the Trivial

woman in white long sleeve shirt and blue denim jeans standing beside brown brick wall
Photo by Pavel Danilyuk on

She used the little broom and shovel from the fireplace set and her mop bucket to clean out the fireplace for her husband.  She carefully cleaned all the ash, putting both coals and ash in the mop bucket.  As she picked up the bucket by the handle to take the coals outside to the burner barrel, the bottom fell out.  Her mop bucket was plastic, and the hot coals melted the bottom.  The coals dropped on the new carpet, leaving a few burn marks.

When her husband got home that evening, she told him what she had done.  He became as hot as the coals.  He said things like, “how could you be so stupid.” Suddenly, he realized what a jerk he had been to get so upset and condescending toward his wife.  His anger would be something she would remember for a long time.  

Suddenly, as if God had gotten his attention, he heard, “Do not lose your home over a few burn spots in a carpet.” He had trivialized the good that his wife was doing for him.  He vitalized and overreacted to a trivial mistake that could have happened to anyone.  There are many trivial things in life.  Those things will not matter for very long.  The vital things, like a marriage, should last a lifetime.  

Do not lose the vital because you overreacted to the trivial

Never React to a Mistake.  Instead, Respond and Stay Positive

Published by People Pastor Dr. Bill Fix

Bill Fix loves people as he lives a fulfilling life. He has written several books and has continued to minister as "The People Pastor" since his retirement as a Lead Pastor. His most incredible thrill is witnessing people excel in their spiritual life. He was a Lead Pastor for thirty-seven years and has equipped hundreds of people to do various ministries in their church and community. Currently, he is a Director on the Board at Community Care Services and is a member of The Taylor Substance Abuse Prevention Task Force. Pastor Bill and his faithful wife Dottie recently celebrated fifty years of marriage. They have two adult daughters married to Godly men, four grandchildren, and are looking forward to being Great Grandparents. Pastor Bill and Dottie are blessed. Pastor Bill Fix began his pastoral career as a children's pastor and has written several children's books. He gives his parents credit for grounding him with principles and truths about life. He knows what good parenting is. His book New Dad Genius is for new dads. Pastor Bill and his entire family have performed illusion programs for hundreds of audiences in and outside the church as a hobby and ministry. He has used ventriloquism, puppetry, art, comedy and more to illustrate a message and put smiles on faces. The People Pastor Bill Fix has a ThD, enjoys education, and has many hobbies like writing, fishing, and spending time with family and friends. This author is a popular officiant at weddings, funerals, home dedications, and other pastoral services. He desires to be a blessing as he lives out Matthew 5:16, his life verse. His books reflect who Pastor Bill is and what he believes.

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: